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Their Friend Put Hair Remover In Their Conditioner
From Redditor u/KittenDealinMama [not the OP]: I (F19) have a friend (F20) who I share natural hair tips/product recommendations with, and she wanted me to try this deep conditioner she was loving and get my opinion on it. [She] just gave me the jar to borrow, which I was like, “Oh cool,” 'cause I didn't want to spend money on something I probably wasn't going to use after the one time anyway, since I already have stuff that's worked just fine for my hair. I did my usual wash routine and I looked the product up before using it; read some pretty good reviews, but what had me a little confused were the people LOVING the smell. 'Cause mine smelled awful! Like trying to spray perfume over rotting food. I got paranoid, I guess, but I was like, “No way,” right? So I put a little on my arm and at first I was like, “Okay, I'm being silly,” but waited and then... got that familiar tingle most people know if they've ever gotten tired of the typical manual shave. I rubbed it off, and what do you know, the spot is now hairless. Now I'm not sure if it was Nair exactly, because it was mixed with the conditioner but definitely some hair removal cream regardless A [little] something about deep conditioners/hair masks: You typically leave them in for 30+ minutes. And I'm sure I would've noticed if my scalp started tingling, but screw being bald - I could've gotten chemically burned?? I almost didn't want to blame her exactly, but she literally used it before offering it to me. She texted me asking when I plan on using it since I didn't tell her I was doing my wash day, and I don't even know how to confront her... TL;DR: friend put hair removal cream in the conditioner she [loaned] me, but I found out and now don't know what to do. Small edit: worst part about this is my birthday is literally in two days and she was probably counting on me using it before then. Update: I decided to make a new post 'cause I talk too much and… this is gonna be long and at least the comments will be separate from the ones from the original so everyone can give an updated opinion, etc.
I appreciate EVERYONE'S comments. I replied to a few, read a lot of them. I didn't expect this to blow up, but honestly I'd be curious too so I get it. A lot of people actually commented about their experience with chemical burns specifically from Nair and how I dodged a bullet like holy hell? My eyesight is already trash; I have very thick frames and it was also brought to my attention that it could've gotten into my eyes as well. That could've gone so wrong! To mass answer the common questions, though, I've been friends with her for a while. She went natural a year ago. We've never argued, she's never done anything like this before, [and] she lives in a college dorm where no one else has access to her stuff but her. She was invited to hang out with me for my birthday but she said she couldn't go. Sorry to the devil's advocates, I was rooting for y'all. I tried to think of what else could've happened to avoid making her the ONLY suspect but I took a bit of advice from everyone.
Actual Update:
…I went ahead and pretended like I had no clue. I told her I was trying it today WITH my mom and she said, “Oh, okay”... Then I said my mom thinks it smells weird; is it supposed to smell like that? I don't think my mom wants to use it. She was like, “Oh, smelled fine to me, well are YOU still going to try it?” I don't respond for a while and then I tell her my mother and I did a patch test on our arms and it burned us (just for her reaction, we are fine). I tell her my mother is p***ed and I start asking her where she got it from, did someone else do something to it? Where did you get this? My mom wants to file a complaint. AND SHE BLOCKS ME. LIKE STRAIGHT UP. ON SOCIALS TOO.
Police are involved, though I don't really want to press charges, but basically just scare her. [B]ut my mom is handling that for the most part… I gave [police] the jar, texts, and a written statement. I do plan on emailing her school with concern for her roommates, plus I think the police will want to speak to her, so she will probably be getting a visit anyway. If that goes anywhere I will certainly update. I'm pretty safe at home for those of you concerned she might do something crazy. I've got two dogs, cameras, a smart lock, good neighbors. I also blocked her in return. I am definitely not sure what the motive behind this was. [T]he police asked me as well and I told them I had no idea, 'cause again, never had issues with her. I made a group chat with all our mutual friends, which is just like four to five people, and let them know as well. They also had no clue why she did it. She hasn't even said anything to them about me so we're all in the dark. One of our girl friends went to text her and got blocked and all she said was, “Hey everything okay?”
I saw a lot of people theorizing that I did something to her like sleep with her crush or p*** her off somehow, but I DIDN'T. I know that's technically biased, but we've literally never given each other something to argue about or anything. 'Cause we're just casual friends! We have completely different circles; I don't even go to her college! Idk how to emphasize this any more than needed. That's why this has scared me so bad! 'Cause I can't even imagine what came over her to do this.
A lot of you saw the post on my profile from another sub that contained the pic of me and obviously my hair, and ya you can see why I'd be p***ed off. Thank you all for the advice though; it helped. I plan on enjoying my birthday not bald or chemically burned, thank the heavens...
Shoutout [to] the hair brand though; the product DOES seem actually decent and has nothing but five stars, so maybe I will actually try the real thing in the future, 'cause at least if I get it myself I know it's not going to melt my hair/scalp.
TL;DR: she blocked me after confrontation, reported to police and school…
Tiny Update:
Everyone has been so nice; thank you… made me very happy. I think I'm going to cut my hair at least to my shoulders and donate it. My scalp isn't chemically burned COUGH no thanks to a certain someone COUGH so at least I can count on growing it back :)
Mini Update I made before this:
Found out through the friend she also blocked, she took some things from her dorm and left, so her roommates don't know where she went, but i imagine to her parents' house? So as of right now though not literally she's "on the run."
Update Now:
(Will be calling the girl Alice from this point)
The following developments are all from word from a friend who kept me filled in and what police told my mom.
Like I imagined, Alice was at her parents' house and they had no clue what was going on, naturally. Police talked to her and I guess throughout the interaction she seemed a little nervous. They informed her parents, who were instantly shocked/p***ed and started grilling her, and the police had to calm them down… [S]ince I'm not pressing any charges and she technically only ATTEMPTED the assault, it wasn't going to be serious. I have NO clue what went off because I wasn't there and I only got what I was told, but Alice basically ended up hitting an officer and resisting arrest but she was eventually put in cuffs.
What happens to her from this point isn't really for me to know… the police can't personally give me anything from this point…
This has all been a major turnaround in terms of her character 'cause Alice has always been very chill and a good girl friend to me, like no issues. Not sure where all this came from and no one else knows either. Her parents were completely oblivious too, so I'm wondering maybe drugs? But there's no way to say for certain... What I WANTED was for the police to talk to her and scare her a little, and her parents to also maybe get her help; did not expect her to go ballistic on them at all...I've been literally trying to AVOID her getting legally in trouble.
AT MOST maybe wanted her parents p***ed at her, but I didn't want her to be arrested, but I couldn't have predicted that she'd get herself in trouble.
UPDATE SUMMED UP: she got arrested anyway.
